By On December 8th, 2015

What People With Eating Disorders Wish Others Understood


With approximately 30 million men and women in the United States experiencing a clinically significant eating disorder in their lifetimes, eating disorders are more common than most people think. Despite being frighteningly frequent, eating disorders are perhaps one of the most poorly understood mental illnesses.

To help dispel the myths and misunderstandings that surround eating disorders, The Mighty partnered with the National Eating Disorders Association to directly ask those who live with eating disorders what they wish others understood.

Here’s what they had to say:

1. “You can’t ‘just eat.’ The world inside your head is so twisted and controlling, a prison of black and white; it makes you fear every aspect of your life outside of your ‘control.’”

2. “Even if you appear ‘healthy,’ you may not be… physically and emotionally. Eating disorders manifest in many ways.”

3. “Recovery is long and hard. If I talk a lot about it, it’s because it affects every aspect of my life.”

4. “I wish people understood the loneliness.”

5. “While recovery is a choice, developing an eating disorder definitely is not.”


6. “It never fully goes away; it lingers in the darkest, deepest parts of your thoughts. It gets easier to deal with but will always be there.”

7. “I can’t just stop my eating disorder on the drop of a dime. Recovery involves changing my entire thought process and my views on food and my body.”

8. “Basic things like going to a family gathering, going out on a date and leaving the house spur of the moment are not that simple for someone with an eating disorder. I have to get over huge mental hurdles just to do simple things.”

9. “Weight restoration doesn’t mean you’ve beaten your eating disorder. It’s a struggle every day. There’s so much more to recovery than weight.”


10. “I wish people understood just because I’m recovering doesn’t mean the eating disorder and underlying issues aren’t still there.”

11. “Restrictive eating disorders aren’t about wanting to be thin, and overeating, like with binge eating disorder, isn’t about not caring about your body and making poor choices.”

12. “They’re not all rooted in vanity.”


13. “It’s a serious disease with life-threatening consequences.”

14. “When someone says, ‘You don’t look like you have an eating disorder,’ it’s extremely triggering.”

15. “Eating disorders don’t discriminate.”

16. “You don’t just wake up one morning and decide to stop eating.”


17. “I wish people realized how loud my eating disorder is.”

18. “Boys and men experience eating disorders, too.”

19. “You cannot look like ‘you have an eating disorder.’”

20. “An eating disorder is not a ‘phase’ or a goal. It’s a disease. End of story.”


21. “It’s our eating disorder that’s selfish, not us.”

22. “I wish people understood that eating disorders don’t just take over your eating habits; they dominate your entire life; every thought, every action.”

23. It’s not about the food or weight — it’s deeper than that. We use the eating disorder to mask something underlying. This isn’t a choice or a lifestyle.”

24. “Even if you’re a ‘healthy weight’ that mentally you may be struggling with your eating disorder more than ever.”

25. “It’s not a glamour disorder. It’s a serious mental illness.”


26. “When I talk about my struggle with food it’s not for attention.”

27. “Things are not what they seem. Just because you’re eating doesn’t mean you’re ‘better.’ Just because you gained weight or you haven’t lost any weight doesn’t mean you don’t have an eating disorder. Just because you look ‘healthy’ doesn’t mean you don’t have an eating disorder.”

28. “No matter how far you are in recovery, little comments can still hurt.”


29. “It’s not exclusively a teenage problem.”

30. “Food is the symptom, not the root, of the eating disorder. It’s all about the person’s psychological state of mind.”

31. “Everyone’s experience with an eating disorder is different.”

32. “You don’t have to be underweight to have an eating disorder.”

33. “You honestly can’t see yourself the way others do.”


34. “Eating disorders are not diets gone wrong.”

35. “It hurts to hear, ‘I wish I had that kind of discipline.’”

36. “There’s nothing ‘lucky’ about being so thin.”


37. “We wish we could be living our lives free. How I wish I could go out on a normal dinner date with my boyfriend or enjoy a holiday feast or a regular dinner with family.”

38. “Eating disorders can feel like a third wheel in your relationships/friendships.”

39. “‘Anorexic’ is not an adjective.”

40. “What you see on the outside is only the tip of the iceberg.”


If you or someone you know is struggling with an eating disorder, please call (888) 298-4673. We can answer any questions you have and see if treatment is the right path for you or your loved one.

One Response

  1. monika says:

    Thank You for sharing such a nice and informative blog and your knowledge with us.

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